Am i gay for my best mate
I am gay and my best friend doesn't know.
Hi, you have a very complex dilemma - do you gradually lose your optimal friend as you withdraw from him to guard your sexual identity or do you take a risk being true to yourself which can leave one of two ways. That is, he can respect you for taking the big risk of being truly intimate and trusting him with something so personal and key and your relationship deepens or he withdraws from you as he struggles with being able to let you truly be yourself without it detracting from himself.
This is the problem everyone who has a ‘secret’ faces. Ultimately being with people who don't know you and you fear will not like you if they did, will only reduce your self-esteem and pleasure in life.
This is not to say it will be easy. Think about how you want to express yourself beforehand, rehearse with someone who loves you, chose a day when best for you and don't put yourself down. The more confident and ‘right’ you experience , the better things will go.
I wonder if your friend does realize on some level? I also wonder if he has some issues which he is dealing with by his gay jokes and criticism of being gay?
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