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I caught my husband watching gay porn and he admitted he's seen it before. Does that denote he's gay?
I recently came into the bedroom to find my husband of 25 years asleep with his iPad on his lap. When I got a closer look, I was shocked to spot he had been viewing gay male porn.
When I woke him up and asked him about it, he admitted to looking at all types of porn, including threesomes and videos from homosexual men-specific sites. I've also come across targeted ads on our home desktop, so I have reason to believe he's watched it there too.
My gut reaction is that unbent men don't look at gay men porn — or do they?
- Arlington, Texas
Dear Arlington,
When you hold a longtime partner doing something you've never seen them do or even talk about before, it can be quite a shock. Add pornography consumption, a topic that's taboo in our society, into the mix, and I can understand why you're so taken aback by your discovery.
But sexual pleasure isn't as cut-and-dry as you may think. There's a whole spectrum of sexuality that goes beyond "gay" and "straight," including of course bisexuality, so it's possible for your husband to be totally
Does watching queer porn make you gay?
I own a question for you but I would prefer to remain anonymous. I'm just gonna be straightforward and demand away. I am a longtime watcher of porn, I enjoy it very much and, for some reason, I'm able to gain off to lgbtq+ porn. I recognize that I'm not attracted to men in real experience at all. So my question is: Is it normal for a vertical man to act this?
— Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
So, in a recent episode of "Family Guy" (pants down, the funniest show on TV), Peter Griffin summarizes his daughter's Christian abstinence program: "Premarital sex turns vertical people gay and gays into Mexicans. Everybody goes down a notch."
My point, and I do have one, is that I don't think you're slipping down a notch in Peter's eyes. It would be easy to think you're so far into the closet that you're crowding out the skeletons, but I don't think that's the case.
You only have to see the very real phenomenon of lesbians who survey gay porn to see my gesture. They don't monitor it for the men; they monitor it for the power dynamics that they can take in to their own beds.
For example, masculinity turns on many lesbians. They want to see it, emulate it and ap
I like gay male porn, but gay men in real life freak me out.
What a person wants and enjoys in media – including pornography (Written, visual or other kinds of media either expressly planned to elicit feelings of sexual desire and/or which people use to elicit those feelings.) – may or may not acquire any relationship (An continuing interaction or association with another person, place or thing.) to what they want and enjoy in real life. That’s often particularly the case with fantasy media, which pornography usually very much is. A big part of viewing, reading, or otherwise engaging in fantasy is about escaping reality, or exploring thoughts and feelings that maybe we assume we might like in reality, but which aren’t actually realistic or feasible, aren’t possible yet, or which we don’t touch would be safe or comfortable for us in actuality. Porn isn’t just fantasy for the viewer, either: just like actors in movies who engage FBI agents often aren’t and don’t want to be FBI agents, actors in pornography are sometimes not the sexual orientation (A term – enjoy homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, gay, straight, lesbian, gay, asexual – used to explain a person’s usual or curre
I remember one night when a group of us were out for drinks, and I met this straight guy. He totally knew that I wanted him and seemed to enjoy that fact, so I decided to evaluate the waters by hitting on him, and since the art of flirtation is lost on the gay community, I probably said something like, “Would you like a blowjob?”
He shut me down right away, then said, “But if you ever act porn, send me the link!” I don’t realize why I was more stunned that a straight-identifying guy wanted to see gay porn than the fact that he mind I might one daytime be in it, especially since my own style in porn is more varied than my actual sexual experiences. I predominantly watch straight porn (imagining I’m the lucky bitch), so is it really so shocking that direct men might find something that turns them on by watching gay sex?
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Why Do Straight Men Watch Gay Porn?
As earlier stated, not all men watching gay porn on PornHub are necessarily gay. Some unbent men like to look at these sorts of videos online, and they turn to view gay pornography for various reasons. So why do vertical men watch things like gay-for-pay activity on the internet?
A recent study has indicated that porn videos showing two men getting intimate are popular among straight men. There are heteros who get a thrust looking at two boys copulating on certain videos. One of the most popular porn sites, YouPorn, cited that 23% of the time, hetero men enjoy looking at gay porn, whereas 39% of the time, straight women like to see such videos, too.
Not that it is irrelevant to the topic, though, but according to that survey by YouPorn, 24% of heterosexual males contain actually had sex with the similar gender, while 36% of straight women have had encounter getting intimate with another woman.
Sexpert Alix Fox of Radio 1, together with doctors and well-being coordinators, describe why straight men who have relationships with women might watch gay porn.
For one thing, it could be a way for hetero